Growing up, my mother put up our tree on the day after
Thanksgiving every year, or by that Sunday, at latest. It was a tradition I carried on in our
family, and Bunny was more than happy to help.
His specialty was stringing the lights.
More lights than one tree should ever hold. We’d hang the ornaments on the tree and drape
all the stockings (his, mine, JoCo and kids’, and one for each cat) over the
china cabinet or the patio door. Hey, we
didn’t have a fireplace in Florida! My
mother was fairly crafty when it came to crocheting and embroidery. About 20 years ago, she made each of us
Christmas stockings, embellished with sequins and embroidered with our names.
Last year, since we were supposed to be going to Louisiana
for Christmas, we didn’t haul out the big tree.
Instead, I got a table-top tree and decorated it, just to be
festive. I later added a second
table-top tree, this one made of aluminum, because I couldn’t pass it up—it was
a miniature version of my maternal grandmother’s huge aluminum tree, so it was
nostalgic and quite mid-century modern, which is my décor style.
I tried to get into the holiday spirit this year on the
weekend after Thanksgiving. I opened the
storage container that holds the stockings, and the first one I came to was
Bunny’s. I held it in my hands for a few
minutes and studied the scene with Santa climbing into a chimney against a blue
background. Santa’s suit is blinged out with
red sequins, and “John” is embroidered across the top in dark thread. I
couldn’t keep the thought out of my head: once
upon a time, my mother hand-made this stocking for my husband. Crap! If there was one symbol of my lost loved
ones, this stocking had to be the front-runner.
I couldn’t put it away and shut the lid fast enough.
Now I was stuck. It just
felt wrong not to celebrate, but I’d be an emotional wreck with all the
reminders around me, glittery and beautiful as they are. I hit upon the solution relatively quickly:
instead of full-blown Christmas, I’d celebrate Chanukuh. Long
before my family celebrated Jesus’ birth, Jesus celebrated Chanukuh. I’ve
never done a full-blown, eight-day celebration of Chanukuh, and it’s certainly
a holiday I’d never shared with Bunny or Mama.
No ghosts of Christmas Past when you’re celebrating Chanukuh!
Off to Target I went, picking up a menorah, candles and dreidels.
Then, because I have a near-morbid phobia of
open flames, I bought a menorah with blue, candle-shaped light bulbs, too. I Skyped my friend William to show them off,
which sparked a case of menorah-envy in him. The next day, he went to the same Target and got
his own menorah, candles and dreidels. I
told him that two menorahs and accessories selling at the same North
Hillsborough/South Pasco County Target within 24 hours would create a skewed
sense of demand.
So Saturday at sundown, I will celebrate the first night of Chanukuh
with William and my family. My family will
light the menorah and spin dreidels for the first time, and learn how another
religion celebrates an important holiday.
We will eat the Cajun all-purpose
winter meal: gumbo. We will be
culturally and nutritionally enriched, and we will be happy. The Christmas trees can come out again next
year, when I’ll be ready for them.
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